MAN UP Week 3: ISOLATION


Table rules

  • We talk about the real stuff going on in our lives, because “faking fine” gets us nowhere.
     
  • We aren’t here to fix each other, so no sermons or unwanted advice. We are here to listen to and encourage each other. 
     
  • We try to keep it short because we want everyone to be free to talk.
     
  • We trust that it’s God’s role to change people, not ours. 

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  1. How have you seen the destructive power of isolation and the healing power of connection play out in your own life?
     

  2. The Bible says that ‘those who refresh others will be refreshed’…what steps are you taking toward both ‘being a friend’ and having a friend? 


MESSAGE NOTES

“Better bacon with brothers, than a bagel alone.”

 

Robert Putnam

“The single most common finding from a half-century’s research on life satisfaction, not only from the U.S. but around the world, is that happiness is best predicted by the breadth and depth of one’s social connections.”

 

“It’s lonely at the top.” I think that’s their fault.

 

Ecclesiastes 4:7-12 (NLT)

I observed yet another example of something meaningless under the sun. This is the case of a man who is all alone, without a child or a brother, yet who works hard to gain as much wealth as he can. But then he asks himself, “Who am I working for? Why am I giving up so much pleasure now?” It is all so meaningless and depressing. 

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

 

Winston Churchill

“The only exercise I get is serving as a pallbearer for my friends who died while exercising.”

 

Proverbs 18:1 (MSG)

Loners who care only for themselves spit on the common good.

 

David Smith

“Within each man there is a dark castle with a fierce dragon to guard the gate. The castle contains a lonely self, a self most men have suppressed, a self they are afraid to show. Instead they present an armored knight—no one is invited inside the castle. The dragon symbolizes the fears and fantasies of masculinity, the leftover stuff of childhood.”

 

Proverbs 17:22

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones…

 

John Ortberg

“Having a happy friend is more likely to increase your happiness than getting a $5000 raise…so if you get a $5000 raise try giving it to a friend. He will be happy and you both win.”

 

Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT)

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.