MAN UP Week 4: SHAME
- We talk about the real stuff going on in our lives, because “faking fine” gets us nowhere.
- We aren’t here to fix each other, so no sermons or unwanted advice. We are here to listen to and encourage each other.
- We try to keep it short because we want everyone to be free to talk.
- We trust that it’s God’s role to change people, not ours.
- Do you believe that pornography is a growing problem among men?
- How has it been a problem for you or someone close to you?
- What would help you walk a path of freedom? How can that journey start this week?
MONITOR YOUR EYES
Matthew 6:22-23a (NLT)
Your eye is a lamp for your body. A pure eye lets sunshine into your soul. But an evil eye shuts the light and plunges you into darkness.
2 Timothy 2:22 (NLT)
Run from anything than stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
MANAGE YOUR MIND
Philippians 4:8 (NLT)
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
Psalm 119:9-16 (NIV)
How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. Praise be to you, Lord; teach me your decrees. With my lips I recount all the laws that come from your mouth. I rejoice in following your statutes as one rejoices in great riches. I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways. I delight in your decrees; I will not neglect your word.
MAINTAIN A VIBRANT MARRIAGE
Proverbs 5:15-19 (NLT)
Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.
RE-CHANNEL YOUR DESIRES
Isaiah 58:6-9 (NIV)
“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?
Is it not to share your food with the hungry and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter— when you see the naked, to clothe them, and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood? Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear; then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the Lord will be your rear guard.
Then you will call, and the Lord will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I.
ACKNOWLEDGE THE STRUGGLE
James 5:16 (NIV)
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.