When we gather as a group, these are some ways we ensure the best group discussion:
We make the circle safe by staying honest and transparent - leave the masks at the door.
We keep it inside the circle. Each person’s story is theirs alone to share.
We look to the Bible for wisdom and truth, and work together to let it shape how we see the world.
We don’t try to fix each other in front of each other or give unsolicited advice. We lovingly save hard conversations for private moments.
We respect each others’ time by starting and ending when we say we will.
We believe that in Jesus Christ, there is hope for everyone.
The whole Bible is full of illustrations - pictures of the Kingdom of God that help us live in a new way and become the people that God created us to be.
Jesus flips his disciples’ understanding of power and authority with one simple illustration: a towel. In one of his most powerful teaching moments, he chooses to wash his friends’ feet and show them exactly how he wants them to live moving forward.
Remember, the questions are not a checklist to be completed, or in the perfect order! They’re simply guardrails to help you have a natural discussion about what we learned on Sunday.
CONNECT WITH EACH OTHER
What’s your best or worst white elephant gift story?
What’s the most drastic way someone has served you without wanting anything in return? Or, what’s one small way someone has served you selflessly in the last week or so?
CONNECT WITH THE MESSAGE
Pride’s effect on you
Pride, or an unhealthy sense of importance, is at the root of so many of our negative thoughts and behaviors - no one is immune from it.
What kind of behaviors or thoughts throughout your life, either big or small, can you clearly connect to your own pride?
Humility does not mean having a low view of yourself - it is being less consumed with yourself in general.
Why doesn’t having a low view of yourself count as humility?
In Psalm 10, David says, “In his pride the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.” When you become less consumed with yourself, it’d make sense that there is more room for God. Practically, what does someone’s life look like when they’re less consumed with self and have more room for God?
Pride is a cheater
Read Beth Moore’s poem about pride together.
What can you relate to most in this poem? What has pride cheated you out of?
When Jesus picked up the towel to wash his disciples’ feet, He gave us a picture of what to do when we’re the most powerful person in the room. where are you powerful?
What “room” are you the most powerful in? Where do you have influence, authority, or some kind of power?
In that place, wherever it is, what does it look like to power up on people and do the opposite of Jesus did with the towel?
The towel and basin in your room
The towel and basin were in the room the whole time - Jesus was just the only one to choose to pick them up. Taylor said that that’s true of every room we’re in - it’s always there and waiting to be picked up.
Where is the towel and basin in your life right now?
Have there been any moments you can look back on and see that you chose not to pick up the towel and basin and decided not to serve the others around you?
There is a lot of vulnerability in choosing to stoop down low in any situation. Otherwise, we’d do it more often. What worries or concerns you about choosing to stoop low, serve others, think less of yourself, and not use your power to your advantage?
Jesus didn’t reverse the pecking order or power structure our world is built on - he destroyed it.
What pecking orders are you a part of? How could you play a part in destroying it?
Jesus was incredibly compelling! He up-ended the religious system of his time and showed the world what God is like by the way he lived, taught, died… then lived again! Read Matthew as one big story and get a better perspective of just what Jesus was like and how he taught!