We read this statement together before every group discussion. It helps transition the group to discussion time, it reaffirms our highest values, and sets a tone of trust, consistency, and safety for everyone in the group.
We are a group of imperfect people pursuing a perfect God. We exist to help each other find and follow Christ. These are some things we want to be true of our group:
- We create a safe and honest environment, staying transparent and authentic.
- We keep it inside the circle. Confidentiality is necessary for a healthy group.
- We look together to the Bible for help and guidance, and keep out our own politics, sales, or agendas.
- We do not try to fix each other, preach sermons, or give unsolicited advice. We instead encourage, listen to, and celebrate each other.
- We handle conflict between us quickly and honestly by going to the person, owning our part, and practicing forgiveness.
- We respect each others’ time by starting and ending when we say we will.
- We trust that it is God’s role to change people, not ours.
- We believe that in Jesus Christ, there is hope for everyone.
- What hobby or activity do you find yourself getting lost in most often?
Questions: Please note, groups do not have to answer all of the questions. This is a guide to help your group go at its own pace.
- Can someone please summarize Part 1: "Introduction & Sea-change" for us? Does anyone else have anything to add to that recap?
- Which chapters of Part 1: "Introduction & Sea-change" did you get to this week? Which chapter struck a chord with you? What stuck out to you the most about Part 1?
- On page 24, in the chapter "Sea-change" Shauna notes, “No one ever changes until the pain level gets high enough.” Do you agree with this statement? How have you seen this play out in your own life?
- On Page 30, in the chapter “Sea-change,” Shauna asks, “If someone gave you a completely blank calendar and a bank account as full as you wanted, what would you do?”
- On page 32, in the chapter “Stuffed" Shauna notes, “The very thing that makes you you, that makes you great, that makes you different from everyone else is also the thing that, unchecked, will ruin you. For me, it’s lust for life. It’s energy, curiosity, hunger.” What is it for you?
- Page 43, in the chapter “You Put Up the Chairs,” begins with a famous quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald, “I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you are not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.” Would you say you’re living a life of which you’re proud? Have you ever realized you were living a life that didn’t make you proud? What did you do?
- On page 54, in the chapter, “On Disappointing People,” Shauna notes, “I’m committed to a particular, limited amount of things in this season, and if what’s being asked of me isn’t one of those, then it stands in the way. That’s why knowing your purpose and priorities for a given season is so valuable— because those commitments become the litmus test for all the decisions you face.” Have you ever felt like you've known your purpose? What are your priorities for this current season? Using these things as the litmus test, what things on your calendar or “to do list” need to go? This week even, how can you start gracefully bowing out of them?